Valentines Day is approaching fast. You can smell the romance building in the air … or can you? For some, it smells like pressure, “How am I going to celebrate and make the person in my life feel special?’
Lets take some of the pressure off and simplify the concept of romance. Romance is all about making the person in your life feel special. We all like to feel special and paid attention to. It validates who we are when the person in our life puts in effort to cater to our wants and desires. For some that might mean going to a pro wrestling match, to others it is a candle light dinner.
You should know who that person is in your life, and figuring out ways to say, “I love you” should not be that hard. Surprise is always adds to the impact. Do and remember things that they would never expect. Their jaw will drop, heart will pound and you feel great in the process. That’s romance, making someone feel loved and cared for.
If you can add romance to your daily relationship life, all the better, but special occasions bring it into focus and that is where the pressure comes in. So if you are still wondering, “What can I do?” Don’t worry, we have some great tips for you.
Guys, women are really easy. All you have to do is get her those special shoes she has been eying, and you’re done.
Ladies, men are even easier, all you have to do is show up, and the less you wear, the better.
Ha Ha … okay, putting jokes aside, lets take a look at some romantic tips.
Guys this is for your lady…
- Get up early during the weekend and make her favorite breakfast and serve her in bed. Add a flower to the tray and keep her company. Company means listening to her … we’ll get to that in a sec.
- While we are talking about romance, don’t be in such a rush. Maybe you are not the cuddly type, in that case, you cuddling makes it even more special. Stick around under the covers for a few and just hold her, you will be surprised how affectionate she will be after.
- Back to listening, do you know how? Want to increase the intimacy in your relationship? Then learn how to listen. Actually turn off the TV and listen to her day and ask questions. Oh, by the way, listening means listening, don’t be a problem solver, be a sounding board. Again, you will be surprised how the intimacy level meter will rise and rise.
- If you want to take her by storm, go all out, cook her dinner. Set a romantic table, candle light, music, pay attention to her and don’t let her clean … sparks are flying …
- Take that dinner or any occasion to another level, write a toast to her. WOW! She will be surprised and the heart will be beating. Don’t forget to look her in the eyes when you are saying your toast.
- Increasing intimacy and romance is as simple as how you first greet each other. Get up and meet her at the door, give her a hug and a kiss. It’s the little gestures that make all the difference.
- Spa Day! Prepare a rose petaled candle light bubble bath for her with a glass of champagne and then treat her to a massage after.
Ladies this is for your man…
- Men love to feel like “The Man,” pay attention to his stories, smile and laugh and touch him while he is talking.
- Put little candies in his suit pocket with a loving note. Just make sure they are not the melting type and ruin his favorite jacket.
- Notes notes notes, men love getting little surprise notes cheering him on. Even better with your kiss making hm special and wanted.
- Preparing his favorite meal and greeting him at the door with a nice gentle kiss and a cocktail of his liking.
- Place an intimate item of yours, sprayed with a touch of your perfume in a discrete location he will find when away from home, briefcase, car or other. He will come home with a different attitude.
- Buy an outfit to wear for his eyes only …
- Leave a book out on tantric love opened to your favorite page for him to discover.
Of course flowers, chocolates, jewelery and gifts always are sweet. In these economic times that might not be practical. All these tips offered don’t require that you spend tons of money. In fact they don’t even require you go anywhere. What they require is that you spend quality time together. That is what romance is all about, being together and honoring each other, oh yea … and enjoying each other!
Today’s Daily Podcast offers an additional fun tip and look for more tips all week in the Inspiration Article and Podcast sections.
